We all know presence when we see it. Sometimes it is a tall, well-built person who everyone says ‘he/she has charisma – you know when they walk in a room’. Often it is a smaller person who quietly engages people through their rapport and relationship building. However they do it, they are able to command attention, people follow them and they get things done. The question a client asked me was ‘can you teach someone presence?’ They had a member of their team who was quiet and reflective, didn’t participate equally at meetings and had problems getting their voice heard. He was well liked, good at his job and always came up with well thought through arguments after reflection.
My experience is that the energy we bring to our leadership is partly personality and partly learned. There are some natural leaders who find it easy to get and keep others attention and there are many more who work at it over a lifetime. What we often mean when we define presence is the Physical Energy that they bring, in their posture, gestures, voice and movement. But equally important is the Emotional Energy – showing empathy, really listening, making people feel important. Princess Diana was fairly quiet and unassuming but definitely had presence, through her emotional connection with people.
To improve presence you have to understand firstly how you come across to others, through specific and honest feedback. You then need to decide what you want to do differently and what different impact you want to have. Through personal coaching you can then explore any limiting beliefs that you hold that are holding you back from making a change. There may finally be some new skills to learn or it may just be about consciously practicing ‘adjusting the dials’, turning up different leadership energy and turning down the voices in our head that stop us from being at our best. You then need ongoing feedback to reinforce positive changes and identify specific areas for continued improvement. What is most important is that you don’t try to be someone else, but that you understand your unique qualities and style and grow those to be the most effective you can be.
If you want to improve your presence or that of your leaders, contact David Tomkinson on 07710 003029 or e-mail david.tomkinson@andpartnership.com







